Has this ever happened to you? A peer asks you for advice or suggestions, and when you respond, s/he gets upset that you didn’t deliver what they were asking for. Darn! Is it me or is it them? My new learning is that it’s on me.
I have a colleague who, every time I ask for assistance to think through a problem, stops me before I get very far to ask: What is it that you’d like from me? What are you asking me for? Aha! That’s what I need to remember to ask. And, for example: Are you asking me to brainstorm solutions, or not? Are you asking for my opinion?
OK, anyone want to help me test this?!
Wednesday, June 27, 2012
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tough one Abby -- have to start with really listening (something i need to improve on) and then getting some feedback. really about communication, isn't it? but it's a good idea because we would close the feedback loop and know if the person got the information/opinion/advice they were looking for.
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